STOP Comparing Yourself to Social Media!

No one can deny it; the addiction is real.

Have you ever caught yourself mindlessly scrolling through Facebook or Instagram? Well, your mindless scrolling may actually be taking a huge impact on your life. You might not realize that everything you see on social media is impacting your life in some way or another.

As we scroll through various social media platforms, we find ourselves comparing to the world we see. We end up believing that what we see on social media is a reality. We believe that living a rich, lavish lifestyle will bring us happiness and success, just like the influencers on our screens.

The impact of social media can become addicting. This is actually a scientific fact; chemicals are released into our brain when we react to social media. One chemical in particular is known as dopamine. Dopamine causes us to seek, desire, and search. Hint, the reason why social media can cause us to seek for attention and the need to desire the world we see.

Don’t get me wrong, it can be a great tool – if you use it in the right way.

A lot of people use social media for business, motivation or to stay connected with friends and family. These are all great reasons to use social media but there are a lot of other factors that come from using these platforms.  

One of the reasons that I enjoy using social media is for inspiration. Before the gym, I scroll through Instagram to get motivation for my workout. I search through different hashtags to build up the encouragement to try new workout ideas and techniques. Some hashtags I search for quick inspiration are #gymworkouts, #HIIT and/or #fitness. I save posts and workout videos from other female influencers to use during a gym session.

With all the great reasons to use social media, we sometimes get a false perception of reality. When we view someone else’s life, we begin to compare our own life to theirs. Don’t feel bad about doing this, we all do it – we are human! But it’s up to us to not let it impact our lives negativity.

Here are a few pointers on how to stop comparing yourself to social media: 

Cut back 

    • Take time away from social media platforms. Influencers do it all the time, take a weekend off or even a week off to unplug. It will be okay; your followers/subscribers will understand. The impact of social media can affect you more than you realize so give it a try. Once you are ready to come back you will feel refreshed and ready!

Spend time away from your phone altogether.

    • This goes along with the first tip but takes it a step further. PUT YOUR PHONE AWAY! Place it on the charger in another room and step away! Take this time to spend with family or friends. Read a book or watch a movie.
    • Bonus challenge – put your phone away during dinner, spend time with everyone around you.  

Find healthy habits and things that bring you joy.

    • With all of this free time away from your phone – find other activities that bring you joy. Some activities could involve working out, cooking or a bike ride on the beach!
    • Make this part of your weekly routine, healthy habits – with no phone!

Take a look at what you are consuming

  • Ask yourself, is what you are consuming bringing you value?
      • Once you get back into the social media world, take a look at what you are consuming. Is it bringing you value? Who are you following?
      • Following people that bring a positive message to the world is going to be important for your personal life. You won’t feel the need to compare yourself because they are providing you value and inspiring you to live your best life.
  • Some of my favorite people to follow are:
      • Tony Robbins (@tonyrobbins) One of the best motivational speakers of all times.
      • Will Smith (@willsmith) He is hard not to love! Will Smith is encouraging, inspiring while being funny at the same time.
      • Follow positive company brands as well. Instagram pages like AMPD Nutrition (@getampdup) showcase real women and provide great healthy advice.

Lastly, understand that it is not reality.

    • People on social media showcase the best parts of their life. You typically only see the good parts of their day. Posts around fancy cars, name brand clothes, shoes and bags. Luxury vacations in the mountains, white beaches or traveling across the global. These posts normally get more attention (engagement) so they continue to post this content.
    • A lot of people don’t show the difficult times that happen to real life, everyday people. They don’t show the days when they don’t feel like getting out of bed or the struggle to find motivation at work. I am here to tell you that these things happen to everyone! Don’t think that your life needs to be perfect every day.

I hope these small pointers will help guide you to use social media for the right reasons. Always remember, you are special – you don’t need to compare yourself to others to show your value!